Secret Fishing Holes
Unlike the avid outdoorsman who is reluctant to give up his secret fishing spot where he’s discovered the fish are abundant and there are no other fishermen around to snag his prize or scare other potential fish away from his hook, I am happy to offer you guys my surefire sweet spots where women are aplenty and their guard is down. If you’re worn out from the bar/ club scene and you’re just spinning your wheels online dating, then I suggest you read on.
I’ll be the first to admit the world of dating is more confusing than ever. In a world of technology and social media you would think having access to an abundance of people would broaden your options and you would surely find someone to date with a mutual attraction, commonalities and similar outlook on life. The climate of dating and dating etiquette has changed dramatically just over a few decades so if it’s been a while since you’ve put yourself out there because you were married or in an LTR, going the online dating or bar/club route will surely eat you alive. Those roads for a new age dating rookie will leave you less confident and your pocketbook will be much lighter with nothing to show for.
Here are my top five secret fishing holes that will get you back out there without draining every ounce of energy from your body while you’re doing them.
1. Dog Park. I know, I know, you’re thinking that’s an obvious one, or you’re thinking, I don’t even have a dog. Here’s the kicker, it’s all in the approach. Here’s what you do … tag along with friends who are a couple and have a cute dog (preferably a puppy). The third wheel approach works well because a single woman walking her dog is more likely to stop and chat with a group of three than she is with a lone guy and his dog. She expects the lone guy and his dog to hit on her, but she has her guard down when she sees a couple and their friend going for a leisurely stroll. At that point she is open to chatting and your friends should talk you up by planting seeds in her head solidifying what a sweet, fun guy you are. At that point maybe she’s open to continuing her walk with you while your married friends continue on without you.
2. Go to every kids’ birthday party you are invited to. Why you ask? I am happy to explain. No guys ever want to go to a kids’ birthday party so the only people that are left to attend are women. Going to a kids’ birthday party gives you an advantage two-fold. First the obvious, you’re the only guy there! Second, you are showing you love and are great with kids leaving the moms in awe and they will practically throw themselves at you.
3. Volunteer your time. Think of how much time you’ve spent on wasted dates. Now what if you only used 25 percent of that wasted time volunteering? This is an awesome way to meet quality women who admire you for your giving side which in turn makes them much more approachable, providing you an atmosphere that allows you to mingle with single prospects without them feeling the pressure of a date or being directly hit on.
4. Weddings. Again, you say here is another obvious one. But tell me this, when was the last time you went to a wedding solo? Going solo is the key. For one, there is no mistake you are single but most importantly every woman who goes to a wedding when they are single can only think about one thing — why she is single and how badly she wishes it was her day. There is something about weddings that brings the want-to-be bride out in every woman.
5. Finally, charity events! I know you are starting to see a theme here and if you aren’t, you should. A charity event is another great way for meeting women, especially if you both truly believe in the same cause. This is an instant way of striking up a conversation that is easy and unassuming. The best way to approach a woman is to drop the lines, introduce yourself to her and talk to her like a human being while giving her the respect she deserves. Give it a try and you just might be surprised.
I have to give credit to Martin Alvarez who was a recent guest on my radio show, the Modern Dater for suggesting #5. If you missed that show or any others you can always catch prior shows podcasts on www.themoderndater.com. Happy fishing!
— Sheik